Married to a non-believer Jan 8, 2013 18:52:00 GMT -5
Post by To live is to love on Jan 8, 2013 18:52:00 GMT -5
Hello. I am new to this forum, as it was suggested by a close friend of mine. We were having some in depth conversations recently and she thought I should ask your opinion on the matter. I am married and have been for 6 years now. My husband is a non-believer. I knew this before we married, but chose to continue the relationship regardless of his religious views, because I loved him. I choose to pray for him and his salvation, every day. I still pray that God will weigh in on his heart one day. I pray that my husband will open his eyes and believe. I do not force this upon him, as I don't see where that would be helpful or an efficient way to minister to him. We talk about Christianity. I share my thoughts with him and speak of praying often. I try to lead by example. We now have a 2 year old daughter. He has agreed that he wants her raised in church, but he will not admit that he believes in God, himself. He questions everything. He isn't an atheist. He claims to be agnostic. He doesn't know what he believes, because he doesn't have the "proof" he desires. The idea behind "having faith" is obviously so intangible that he doesn't comprehend it well. He's a facts kind of man. He longs for information and diligently watches programs about the Bible, religion and the afterlife. I'm not sure when or why he chose this path. His family is Christian and he was raised in church. I know as a fellow Christian, I am often turned off my organized religion. It's not the idea behind public worship or fellowship that bothers me, often times it's other Christians and their judgmental ways, hypocrisy and lack of knowledge. I often wonder if this was the catalyst for his decision as well. I have an overwhelming peace and calm about my situation, however. My husband is a great man, a great father, a great husband and provider. This is the only thing we disagree on in our relationship and unfortunately, it's a big one. I've always heard that you are not to divorce your spouse because they are an unbeliever. I will not divorce him. I would never divorce him. Something in my heart tells me it's going to be ok; just keep praying for him. Is this all I can do? Is this all I should do? I'm curious what your thoughts on this subject matter are. Am I doing what God wants me to do or am I going about this all wrong?