Pastor Mike, I’m at a loss. How can I handle family conflict in a biblical manner? Not conflict as in bickering or disagreements between family members, but the family members that seem to not make time unless they have to?
In our situation, our children are the ones being hurt by this. Grandma comes around maybe once a month, it’s not always guaranteed she’ll be around for holidays or birthdays because when she gets mad enough over anything it seems, she just doesn’t show up. When cornered by our older children on not going for over night stays she says she’ll do better, and will for a month or two, and then it stops again.
It’s the same matter with great grandma, only it has been going on for years. Her reason used to constantly be she couldn’t handle so many children at once, which we would gladly accommodate and switch weekends or weeks days. But now the kids are noticing their cousin is with her almost every single day, sometimes for a week at a time, while it’s months before they get to stay over.
This has been a battle for 8 years, and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to commit a sin and not even know it. But as a mother I feel as though I’m allowing emotional damage to my children in a sense. Does the Bible cover this at all? I’ve reached out & spoken to everyone involved numerous times over the years. Each time I’m told things will change & if it does, it’s short lived & never lasts.
I'm sorry for the delay in responding. I've actually been praying about how to respond, and I'm afraid I don't have the kind of answer you're looking for. The truth is that, even with all you've said, I still don't know all that much about your situation. I would love to have a conversation with you, however. Please reach out, and let's arrange to talk. You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org